Saturday, 23 January 2010

In In Which She Accidentally Seduces a Train Conductor


So I'm on the train going from Big City to Market Town and I have my nose in a Rosamunde Pilcher and I'm (ahem) chillin' after a hard day at the chalkface. But then, gentle reader, I smell something funny. Now, smelling something funny is not an unusual occurrence on the 3:50 from Big City to Market Town, but this smell was the distinct, and perhaps now slightly unusual, smell of cigarette smoke in a confined space. I look around the half empty carriage and see a group of boys in hoods puffing away quite happily, and might I say quite illegally, at the old coffin nails. The thing is, I don't tell teenage boys to stop smoking unless it is between the hours of 8:30 and 3:10, after those hours it is an other's responsibility. So I search around for the train conductor and I catch his eye.

I don't say a thing to him, surely he can smell the smoke? I indicate with my eyes that the boys on the other end of the train are smoking. He smiles. I smile (grimace) back and indicate, again with my peepers, that the boys at the far end of the carriage are puffing away like chimneys. He smiles a wide, not so charming, grin. I give up. He obviously wants an easy life and doesn't want to confront the hoodies. Who knows, in this day and age they may pull out a "piece" and "ice" him. Or they may call him a rude name. Either way, it is obvious that the conductor is not going to cause a fuss when we only have five minutes of the journey left before they train "terminates". I agree with him, I just want to read my book.

However, when we all "alight" and the hoodies exit the train, the conductor takes me to one side and says, "it's been nice having you on board today love, enjoy the rest of your journey!" I think I've pulled.

Wednesday, 13 January 2010

Snow Day

I know I said I'd be back during the mid-term break to regale you with tales of daring-do in "the big city school", but after two days of full-time work I've got a snow day! You're probably quite pleased to know that so far I've been using this time off effectively: planning for future lessons; updating my teaching skills; going on the Teachit website and so on... Oh heck, like George Washington, I cannot tell a lie! I've actually been looking at old pictures of Warwickshire in the snow on the Windows on Warwickshire website and eating peanut butter out of the jar with my finger. Simple pleasures for a simple person.

You know, I don't want to say it too loudly, but I've been very much enjoying my job so far. The kids I teach are genuinely charming: they actually thank me after the lesson for teaching them; they say I have nice hair! My colleagues seem friendly and I've made a chums with the maths teacher who has a room near me, we share flasks of coffee during breaktimes and talk about Pashley bicycles. I do, however, have a permanent headache. I haven't been able to shift it since I started work, it's all of the thinking I'm doing. There's a lot of thinking in teaching, not just about your subject, but about how to handle the various personalities and learning styles of the kids you're responsible for, also I'm having to think about home organisation much more. I know I won't shift my bad head until I'm used to my routine.
My only grumble is that I do not like the city I work in. It is not the city's fault. It got hammered by the Luftwaffe during the war and never recovered, the horrible 1950s town planning and bloody awful corresponding architecture just made the city centre grim: grey and grim, particularly in the slush. I don't like walking through the various underpasses and overpasses in the dim morning light, you get quite a vulnerable feeling. It's one of those cities where idealistic architects built living spaces according to academic and experimental principles, but never thought to ask the bombed out citizens how they would want to live.

My own children seem to be quite happy(ish) with our new family arrangements. For my eldest girl, very little has changed. She was always home around 4:00 and now lets herself in and watches "Come Dine with Me" in peace and quiet until I'm home with her little sister at 4:15. My youngest really enjoys her after-school club, and complains that I pick her up too early "I was in the middle of building a Lego tower with..." However, this morning when I was gettting her ready for school (which has been her dad's job since I started work) she complained that she wants me to work at her school. "You're a teacher, you can work at my school, not the school for big kids!" She has also said that she misses me walking her to school, her routine has been disrupted and she's feeling it. Not too much, she's quite tough, but enough for us both to feel a bit sorry and sad. I hope that when her new routine is established she enjoys her dad taking her to school, I know that he's enjoying more practical involvement with the girls and is making a real effort to keep them happy and buoyant and not missing mummy in the mornings too much.

Well, I suppose I really should adieu. I'm going to mop floors and prepare a proper roast dinner whilst I've got the opportunity...oh, and eat a little more peanut butter form the jar. Anon, goode huswives, anon!

Tuesday, 5 January 2010

Bits from Books

( A photograph of my home town centre, taken in the 1950s when my copy of Newnes Household Management was first published)

So I'm sitting here waiting for the snow to come. We've not had the bad weather here in the middle Midlands, but we're due it today and my girls are expecting their schools to close at lunch-time so they can come home and make a snowman on the green. What can I say? They're an optimistic pair. I've been watching the chaos the bad weather has been causing in other parts of the UK with interest. Apparently, there's a poor woman in Scotland who left her home on 23rd December to buy a turkey for Christmas and is still stuck in town, unable to get back to her cottage, her husband and their six dogs. And the bad weather brings me, in a very roundabout way, on to some bits from books; bits from books I had for Christmas, in fact.

I remember one time, just after one Christmas in the late 1980s we has such bad snow that our water pipes froze and we had long power cuts. Roads were pretty impassible for a few days, but we had a house full of Christmas left-overs and we melted snow on the gas hob for water...believe it or not, we had a lot of fun! I completely forgot about this until my sister gave me Jocasta Innes Country Kitchen as a Christmas present this year, and my mum said "can you remember making the syllabub from that book when we had all that snow?" It all came flooding back, I was about fifteen or so and the syllabub is one of the first recipes I followed from a book. I've never looked back. Here's the recipe.

Good cows they were and never ailed, and plenty of everything there was in that house, good milk and cheese and buckets and buckets of skim for the pigs.
Precious Bane, Mary Webb.

Syllabub
1 lemon
1 small glass (4 fl oz approx) Marsala, Madeira or sweet sherry
2 tablespoons castor sugar
1/2 pint double cream
pinch of ground nutmeg
Grate the lemon rind, squeeze the juice and combine both with the sherry and the sugar. Leave to stand for a few hours, or overnight. Strain (to remove the rind) and add to the cream. Then whisk till thick, fluffy but not too stiff. Spoon into little glasses and serve cold with biscuits.
*******
Well, the snow is falling now. And I quite fancy some rich, snowy-white syllabub to fortify me against the vagaries of the weather. Actually, I can't help but think that syllabub would make a great rich topping for a trifle. I am incorrigible.

Next up, we have two volumes of Alison Barnes' Newnes Household Management from the 1950s. These were a present from the DH and I love them. They offer a complete and comprehensive journey into the 1950s housekeeping ideal, and have a lovely idealistic and business-like tone. Volume one alone includes advice on: pressure cooking; tea party food; getting your figure back to normal after having a baby; how to lay out a herbaceous border and the ABC of dressmaking. But first, I offer you an extract from the foreword.

Home is the most important place in the world. It may be a bachelor bed-sitting room, a rather poky little flat, a part of someone else's house, an inconvenient cottage or a rambling barn of a place. Whatever it is, making it into a home brings its own unique brand of personal satisfaction.

A good home is a well-organised one and produces happy, well-balanced, tolerant human beings, able to give and take. It is in the badly managed homes that you find constant quarrelling, strain, distrust, emotional tension and spoilt, undisciplined children destined, if their parents only realised it, for untold unhappiness when they get out into the world and can no longer have their own way. For a child's earliest experience of adapting itself to others - and so into the pattern of a civilised community - begins in the home. Without the right home atmosphere, no child can ever really learn the true art of living.

Personal happiness and national welfare therefore depend very largely upon sound home management, which is the joint responsibility of all who live in the home.

Here let me add a word of warning: the house that runs as smoothly as well-oiled machinery (and just as soullessly) must never be confused with a real home that has a warm, friendly atmosphere because it is built on a sure foundation of affection and understanding.

Has never a truer word been written, gentle reader?

But now onto volume two, which offers the homemaker instructions on: etiquette; how to make a Christmas centre piece; traditional Jewish food and how to deal with dry rot. However, I shall leave you with their chapter on Elizabethan recipes. There was quite a fad for the Virgin Queen in the 1950s, they were, after all, the new Elizabethans! Here's what Alison Barnes has to say on the matter.

Authentic traditional fare from the days of Good Queen Bess, as served in the Elizabethan Room at the Gore Hotel, London.
Syllabub
Take a pint of canary or white wine, a pint of raspberry juice, a sprig of rosemary, a nutmeg quartered, the juice of a lemon, and some peel with sugar, put these together in a pot all night and cover them. In the morning take a pint and a half of cream, and a pint and a half of new milk. Then take out the lemon peel, rosemary and nutmeg, and squirt your milk and cream into the pot. With a wooden cow, fold at the corners. (The nearest modern equivalent of a wooden cow is a grooved wooden butter par, but this part of the recipe can be omitted without damage to the resulting dish.)

Never mind finding a wooden cow, how in the heck do I squirt the milk and cream? The mind boggles. I imagine Jocasta Innes reading this recipe sometime in 1955 and thirty years later finally coming up with a workable syllabub and punching the air in satisfation. On that note I must anon goode huswives! I shall see you in the mid-term break!

Monday, 4 January 2010

Move Over Miss Read - Or, Dulce Domum Goes to School


I want to thank you all for all of the kind thoughts and prayers you've been sending out to me over the ether. We had a very good Christmas, full of fun and togetherness and busy-ness, and we had some really kind comments from family who stayed with us over the period. The DH is back at work today ( but for how long I don't know, there have been no further developments leaving dates and so forth), the girls will be back at school tomorrow and I start work next Monday. It seems that the New Year is upon us with a vengeance!

I have a full-time job, but for one term only, at a school in a local city. The school is in a very deprived borough but is good and creative and serves its catchment well. I will be doing some special needs work which is what I wanted, so I can honestly say that God has been very good to us. I hope to keep you posted on how things are going.

Although I am very much at peace with the kind of work I'll be doing, it's work I'm comfortable with, I do feel a little worried about how I'll manage my home-life whilst holding down a full-time job. The DH will be taking the children to school from now on, and my youngest will have to go to an after school club for half an hour. And, although I know that many mothers who work full-time would be more than grateful for my working hours, my youngest feels nervous about the changes and I feel concerned about her nerves. Predictability and consistency are so important in little lives. I hope to lessen the impact of my working by not letting my job creep into my home, by being as much as myself as possible, by home being the same as it ever was. I think this will take an iron clad will, a certain amount of self-discipline so far as organisation is concerned ( not just for me, but for the DH...the question is, will I become a nag?) and a good deal of patience and sensitivity. We will see how it goes.

Anyway, I repeat my thanks for your kind words and prayers and I wish you all a Happy New Year.

Monday, 30 November 2009

Where the Heck is Dulce Domum?

Oh, gentle reader I am a bad, bad, blogger. But if you're still out there do forgive my recent disappearance from the blogosphere, and I will explain myself later, but first you must let me get Advent out of my system. I do love a bit of Advent and beautiful period of waiting and reflection before Christ arrives. I also like all of the planning and preparation we make during the season, and I like the connectedness I feel to other people throughout the world who plan and prepare at this time, and all those people in the past for whom Advent was a special time before the feast of Christmas.

Gosh, I could go on, but I just don't have the time. However, here are a few good Advent links for those of us who wish to differentiate between the commercial "run up to Christmas" and the spiritual "Advent" (arrival) of Jesus Christ.

The C of E's Advent page
The Arch Bishop of Canterbury's Advent Reflections
St Nicholas - the Advent Saint

And, for the practical amongst us.
Mincemeat, cake and Christmas pudding recipes - all by the most beloved and sainted Hugh Fearnley Whittingstall.
How to make an Advent wreath - I've found that it is much easier, and you get better results, if you use florist's oasis, rather that a wreath ring. Also, this year I couldn't find the purple and pink candles, so I opted for the non-denom red and whites. Heck, what can I say? I'm both catholic and reformed!
How to make those nifty parcel bows out of old magazines! Oh, this is how I'd ideally like to spend my Advent - praying, reflecting, and making parcel bows. However, I must...

...go out to work to earn a crust. Yes, the world of paid work beckons with its twisted calloused fingers. The DH has been made redundant (a horrible phrase which places the responsibility of job loss on the victim rather than the irresponsible and greed-ridden economic system we've been subjected to over the past thirty years). And, of course, the West Midlands has been hit harder than any other area of the UK by the recession, simply because most of our employment was in both manufacturing and IT. So the amount of forty-something project managers out of work in my area is massive. The DH will have to retrain and meanwhile I will have to hold the fort. I am holding the fort thusly:
  • by doing supply work - not teaching but secondary SEN TA supply. So far in mainstream, but I hope to get some special school experience soon. Note to non-teacher readers. I am a Secondary English teacher by profession, and doing Secondary supply is for tough nuts only - I am not a tough nut and have therefore opted for TA work.
  • Applying for more permanent teaching jobs. One in a local school (Ofsted "outstanding") , but it's where my eldest goes to school and I am deeply unsure about the dynamics of me being chronically over-worked (and I will be, it's the nature of teaching a core subject) in the school she rather loves. I'm worried that it will sully her feelings about her school-life. The second job is in an inner city school, with challenging students, but it's part-time one-to-one tuition and may be a bit less like jumping in at the deep end...it's good money too. But we'll see, and I'll try to keep you posted.
Am I happy about my new-found change in status? To be honest with you, I have very mixed feelings. I rather like the TA work, being supply I can pick and choose and TA stuff is always quite fun and I love special needs work. Also, I'm out of school in time to pick up my kids. It's working really well, because the DH is still working...but when he finishes work I will be the main breadwinner and will have to go back to full-time teaching. It's this thought gives me the heebie-jeebies. The thought of having a proper, bonefide career, rather than a nice little part-time job, makes me feel a bit queasy, I'm not an ambitious person and I'm not a good juggler. Tough times are ahead, and I'll need all the strength I can get, so any prayers you can throw my way will be very much appreciated.

So this is my news. I hope to continue blogging on matters domestic, because despite all of all the changes going on right now, I'm still Dulce Domum.

Thursday, 8 October 2009

National Poetry Day


Hurrah for National Poetry Day! I hope you enjoyed the clip of Maggie Smith and Kenneth Williams reading Betjeman's Death in Leamington...Betjeman, Williams and Smith all together on Parky, now that's what I call good telly. You know, I'm the kind of mother who sends the kids to school with a poem in their bag even if their teachers have not specifically asked that the class do so. Their teachers must love me.


Well, anyway, I was gobsmacked to learn that T. S. Eliot was voted Britain's favourite poet this year. He's hardly accessible is he? My hunch is that a lot of people saw that excellent poetry series on BBC4 and half fell in love with Robert Webb and his exploration of Eliot's Prufrock...Let us go then you and I, When the evening is spread out against the sky Like a patient etherised upon a table;" ...he wasn't half good at first lines "April is the cruellest month, breeding Lilacs out of the dead land, mixing memory and desire"...good stuff!


Well for your delectation here are the final lines of Choruses from the Rock (X). Enjoy!


In our rhythm of earthly life we tire of light. We are glad


when the day ends, when the play ends: and ecstasy


is too much pain.


We are children quickly tired: children who are up in the


night and fall asleep as the rocket is fired; and the day


is long for work or play.


We tire of distraction or concentration, we sleep and are


glad to sleep,


Controlled by the rhythm of blood and the day and the


night and the seasons.


And we must extinguish the candle, put out the light and relight it;


Forever must quench, forever relight the flame.


Therefore we thank Thee for our little light, that is


dappled with shadow.


We thank Thee who hast moved us to building, to finding,


to forming at the ends of our fingers and beams


of our eyes.


And when we have built an altar to the Invisible Light, we


may set thereon the little lights for which our


bodily vision is made.


And we that Thee that darkness reminds us of light.


O Light Invisible, we give Thee thanks for Thy great


glory!

Tuesday, 6 October 2009

Home Tracts, Home Facts


Well, eons ago I promised to do a few proper book reviews and I find myself with a spare hour (before my mum comes around for a cuppa) so I thought I'd introduce you to the wonderful world of "home tracts". Now, if you've been reading this blog for a while and fancy starting a little collection of antique and vintage homemaking books, start with home tracts. First, because they're much, much, cheaper than cookbooks and housekeeping manuals, in fact I've never paid for than £3 for a tract. Secondly, many of the tracts are written with the working classes in mind, and unfortunately you get very little insight into the lives of working men and women from 19th century cookbooks, even Soyer's Shilling Cookery, which was intended as a manual for the working classes, contained recipes far out of their price range. Thirdly, they are often narrative based, modern day parables of thrift, cleanliness and prudence and the efficacy of white wash and home-grown parsley, and as such are very entertaining. However, I should warn you that this post is not merely a book review, but gets a little impassioned an political towards the end.
Many tracts were either given away or sold cheaply by non-conformist chapels and are very much a product of the Evangelical Revival. What we must remember about this time in Britain's religious history is that the non-conformists were responsible for the vast majority of 19th century social reform, they simply took the Christian notion of equality and brotherhood of man with much more seriousness than the established church, and the established political parties, and therefore were quite a radical bunch of old dears. Indeed, Roy Hattersley says that the fundamental norms and values of the Labour movement were built firmly on Methodist ideals and not socialist ideals, and I tend to agree with Roy, as he's a nice chap and a good social historian. So when we read these home tracts we see the writer giving a dignity and a sense of pride and equality to the working poor in the narrative. We also get the idea of former sins forgiven, a new life encouraged, ways of self improvement suggested: reading them is a little like reading simplified snippets of a Mrs Gaskell novel, therefore.
But before I rattle on any further, here's a snippet from the first story in Home Happiness, which I imagine was first published in the mid-19th century and is an absolute smasher of a tract. In it a good working man's housewife teaches her slatternly neighbour how to run a house.
Above everything, pray don't have a mess when Eben comes home. It's shameful how some women drive their husbands to the public house, as one may say, by having the place all dirt and litter and confusion, when a man comes home tired, of an evening, wanting a little comfort. Such women have a small right to complain of drunken husbands, seems to me.
Well, you could deconstruct this bit until the cows come home, couldn't you? I detect a waft of the temperance movement, which is as it should be. I'm reminded of the bit in George Eliot's Amos Barton where she describes the miners of North Warwickshire as being better paid than the poor curate but spending their money almost entirely on drink. Indeed, one or two Methodist factory and mine owners in my town formed social clubs, libraries and so on for their workers specifying sobriety as a form of membership to such clubs. What interests me most is that on both sides of my family my great-grandfathers were miners, and indeed alcoholics, and my maternal grandmother, and paternal grandfather told stories of real hardship, poverty and deprivation. However, the question we have to ask ourselves is this. Is it an act of empowerment to say to the woman that she could keep her husband away from the beer simply by keeping a tidy home? Or, is the tract blaming the slatternly wife for driving her husband towards the drink? I'd love to hear your thoughts on the matter, deconstruct away, gentle reader!
Now, most of the stories in the book have an urban setting. (Is it me or have the urban poor in this country been seen as "problem " for nearly 200 years now? If so it's about time we got sorted out.) However, there is one tale in the book which has a country setting, and as such is a good read for any fan of Larkrise to Candleford, as it acts as a mirror to the scenes of country poverty and resilience in Flora Thompson's great book. In it we again read a story of a rather exemplary country couple and their imprudent and weak-willed neighbours.
"I've a good deal of binding that must be done this week, Lucy; can't you do some?" asked James, one morning a short time after they were married. "not to-day; 'tis Hilton Fair, you know, and Jane Richards and I are going. You'll come too won't you?" "I can't spare the time - I'm all behind now; we were out so much last week - I think, Lucy, you might as well stay home. Ain't you going to make bread? We've had none but baker's loaves ever since we married, and I don't like that at all." "Nonsense, you are always bothering about the bread. Besides, if we go to the fair, we shan't want any bread in the house," said Lucy, laughing; "so, come along; the shoes will keep to tomorrow." Poor James stood shilly-shally. He knew he ought to stay at home. and do the work her had promised to finish; but Lucy pulled him by his curly hair, and told him that he looked so handsome that she should be quite proud of going to Hilton Fair with him; and just then Jane Richards, with her smart beau came up; and he was afraid of being laughed at, and being called a grubbing cobbler (his wife called hime so once, when he hestitated about going to a tea party at a public house); so he put away his tools, and dressed himself in his Sunday clothes, to go to the fair.
Oh dear, poor imprudent James talked into downing tools by his pleasure-seeking wife. Well, you'll not be surprised to know that no good comes from going to Hilton Fair. Jane Richards gets drunk and finds herself pregnant by her smart beau (a soldier who hot-foots it away once he's done the dirty deed) , James loses business, after getting a reputation for idleness, the family falls into poverty and "after six years, no-one could have believed that the squalid, ragged-looking Mrs Elliot, with her four dirty little children, was the smart pretty Lucy who boasted of her many sweethearts." The sensible, frugal couple meanwhile had "children who regularly attended Sunday-school. The eldest son and daughter had become teachers...The girls had all been taught useful sewing; and could cut out a shirt, or even a pair of trowsers..." and all the children were taught that "honest working people, with the fear of God in their eyes, are often better off than some of those above them in the world."
Of course, fifty years later Maud Pember Reeves would debate the fact that all the working poor needed to improve their lot was an ability to keep house and keep sober. In Round About a Pound a Week (not a religious tract, but a Fabian society report), she details that despite frugality, cleanliness and sobriety the labouring London poor (the lower working classes) were still unable to afford to buy very little but bread and jam to eat, and the health of their children showed the lack of meat, dairy and vegetables in their diets. Her work, and the fact that the majority of drafted soldiers in the first world war were under-height) forced the government of the 1920s into giving schoolchildren free milk. What interests me, of course, is how far Pember Reeves ideal of "the state as co-parent" has morphed into the state as rich uncle. Labour's attempts at curing social deprivation and child poverty have been solely monetary based, we throw money at the urban poor, but we forget that the deprivation they face is cultural and curing that cultural deprivation is going to cost more money than giving out benefits. The state wanders into our lives and hopes we're not naughty with the money, and hopes we don't become too bothersome, and doesn't tell us how to use it, because we're all individuals and the state doesn't want to impose moral values on its nieces and nephews.
But it's no surprise to me that Labour has forgotten its roots, it's rather afraid of the people of whom it was formed to serve, it cannot converse with them without moralising to them, and Labour doesn't want to moralise because y'know that's not what liberals do, good liberals just throw money at any given situation and don't ask questions, of either bankers or part-time drug dealers on sink estates. So it simply doesn't moralise at all, it prefers its (politically safe) giddy rich uncle status. However, we must see a clear vision from our government on what a good life, a good community is and should be. The post-war Labour government managed this, it wasn't afraid to talk about equality, morality and community and it put it's money where its mouth was, it had a clear vision of post-war Britian and it acted on that vision. The early social reformers, Evangelical tract writers and trade unionists had a clear vision of the capabilities and needs of the people they served, they moralised a-plenty and knew what a good life was and offered a firm choice to their intended membership/readership. This is what we so desperately need now, a clear, from the ground-up, vision of British community life, and how the individual is responsible for their part in forming a civil society. And to do this we have to learn from our social history, learn from the likes of the tract writers and Pember Reeves. We need to empower our populace through moral education. We need a moral New Deal because without it those last vestiges of British community life we love and value will begin to crumble.
Gentle reader forgive me, but this is my post has been my online response to the Fiona Pilkington case. Barwell is on my doorstep and I know it quite well and I can tell you it's not that rough. It's just a bit rough and quite ordinary. It's not a Leicester sink estate, let alone a London sink estate, yet a group of local youth in Barwell bullied a mother and her learning disabled daughter so viciously that the mother set fire to herself and her child in a local lay-by. Asbos and handouts did not help Ms Pilkington and they did not help the children who caused her death, but instruction on how we are meant to behave as individuals, family members, and community members would have. By all means give benefits to those in real and desperate need, but please shirk no longer on expressing moral ideals. We need our bread, but we need our roses too.